Brown Shoes- Black Pants

Ok fashion police!  Lock me up!

While packing for a trip to a wedding, I made a decision that I would wear brown shoes with black dress slacks so I would not have to pack and carry black shoes for only one event.  I can tell you that it certainly will not match and it will likely clash and I may even catch a glance or two.

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Your probably thinking- well your a guy and you can pull it off.  You don’t hang with the chatty girls who would love to make some comments about a real fashion error.  That’s is true- I admit.  So if you would struggle here read on!

I know that the look is not optimal, but I made a decision based on what I wanted, based on the costs and benefits, not on what others want or think.  I weighed out the choices and decided I would ignore the noise around me and focus on what makes sense for this situation.  What’s the message here?  Well it’s not about shoes.

It’s about the ability to tune out the voices around you.  The voices that tell you that you are obligated to do something.  You must follow the protocol.

It’s about resisting to jump every time the voices around you tell you to do something when you know it’s really not that important.

It’s about making your own decisions and judgements and swimming upstream when you know that you should.

It’s about being freed from the approval beast that will consume you and run your life.

Servant leaders often get bogged down by simply reacting to others instead of being proactive and getting in front of the voices.  The ability to be objective, concentrate on the big picture, and have the guts to say no is extremely difficult for someone with a servant’s heart.

Is this your struggle?  Do you want to blend in?  Do you have an insatiable hunger for the pat on the back?  Can you break away?

I say, take control of your life!  Live your life your way.  Make it your own.  Paint the picture of your life vibrant and colorful.  Tune out the voices that are
holding you back or taking up all of your time.

Go ahead- do black with brown. You won’t explode!  I promise!

Do you struggle with feelings of obligation and following the norm?  Click on like if you can relate or click on comments if you have a story to share.  Don’t be a stealth reader!  Let me know what YOU think!     

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About Joe Passkiewicz

Joe Passkiewicz is Vice President of LandSouth Construction and Lead Contributor of Leading By Serving, Leadership is for Everyone.

4 thoughts on “Brown Shoes- Black Pants

  1. I can relate to this. During my divorce, I learned to stuff is just stuff but if you have some, surround yourself with the stuff that you like and makes you happy. For me, it’s the color purple (as you know!) It’s also the 60’s light I have hanging in my living room. My house looks nothing like a page in a decorator book but I like it!

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    • Thanks Cindy! We are so programmed to obligation, I think we are sometimes like the lemmings following each other over the cliff! So much “have to do” instead of “want to do”! The rules can really be tiring! I know it can shake things up but who made all of these must do things anyways? Something to think about!

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