I listened to a discussion this morning on the radio that was really troubling. The K-LOVE morning show was discussing a statistic regarding young women. According to a newpaper article that they referenced, 6 out of 10 girls give up the thing they love to do because of the way they look. Really, not the way they look, but how they think they look. Young women don’t feel that they look good enough to accomplish their dream. They will actually just give it up. I was really saddened by this statistic. Honestly, I don’t question the numbers. In fact, I wonder if they may even be low. What a tragedy. This really hurt me.
We all want to feel desirable and wanted. With women it is generally much more important than with men. A major part of their identity is centered on how they feel about themselves and how they think they look to others.
The world is giving young women impossible expectations. They see the runway filled with emaciated models. They are bullied by their peers and called hateful names. Clothes are getting smaller, tighter, more revealing. Images of supermodels pasted everywhere you look. Eating disorders abound. What can we do?
Men: Encourage the women around you. Complement them on the way they dress, their new haircut, or their outfit. Tell them that they are not fat. They yearn for this.
Dads and Moms: Encourage your daughters. Talk to them about the truth. They are wonderfully and perfectly made by their Father in heaven. Tell them that the message that the world delivers is not true. It’s stinking garbage. Tell them the real truth: They are beautiful. They are special. They are loved.
I have a friend named Courtenay Bowser who struggled with these issues and she wrote a book that describes her journey to freedom. The book is called “Beautiful”. If you click on the title it will take you to her website. This would be a helpful read for you or someone you know that is struggling with self-image issues or trying to meet the world’s warped expectations for women.
Don’t let your girls give up their dreams. Fight for them by encouraging them. You may think your girl is well adjusted yet- you are probably getting fooled. Give them what they need. Tell them. Do it now!