When I was in high school I remember sitting frozen by the phone thinking about all the things that could go wrong.
Would I be rejected?
Would she laugh at me?
Would she make me feel foolish?
Would everyone hear about it and think I was crazy?
Was I overstepping my boundaries?
Sometimes I just couldn’t pick up the phone. I tried to overpower the thoughts that I had, but sometimes they just won. I wasn’t good enough. What was I thinking? She is way out of reach for me.
I was strangled by the F word. FEAR.
Now as I look back at it- what is the worst thing that could happen? She says no. There may be some laughter and maybe I was overstepping. Yet, I will never know because I didn’t try. The F word.
Fear is powerful. Yes, I am a man and I have been afraid and ducked out plenty of times in my life.
When I should have moved forward.
When I should have taken the chance.
When I could have stepped out and made a difference.
What does the F word do? Let me give you a few of the finalities of fear.
You Freeze: Fear stops you from making a decision. You stop. And while you are stopping, the rest of the world is moving. You loose your advantage. You are now looking from behind.
You Miss The Boat: Opportunities are an instant. A moment in time. When you decide to wait or you decide it’s too risky, the opportunity is gone. Things change. You can’t go back to that spot. It’s gone, quite possibly forever.
You Determine The Outcome: If you fail to act you know what will happen. Nothing. You have decided it. Maybe that’s what you want. Maybe the risk is too high. But one thing for sure, It’s done. If you choose to risk the outcome might be good. Choosing not to risk decides the answer.
Often the root of a failure to act can be traced to pride. I never loose. I always come out on top. What would everyone think if I actually failed?
Yet failure is actually healthy. It doesn’t feel good when you are in it, but I have learned some of my greatest life lessons through failure. So what do you really learn in failure?
You learn that the sun will rise the next day. You find out that the people that really love you are still there. You find out that the F word is mostly in your head. You find out that faith is the thing that allows you to risk. Faith in yourself. Faith in your family. Faith in a Father who loves you no matter what! Fear is a product of the enemy. An old scheme he uses to take away your power. A way to neutralize you in the spiritual battle that is going on around us.
So what are you going to do? Are you going to crumble and let the F word decide for you and make your final decision OR will you fight through it and go for it! Do something risky. Do something big. Shake off the F word, have faith and trust in yourself!