Your Fooling Yourself!

Do we deceive ourselves into thinking that we ARE what we are NOT?

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The mind has a way of legitimizing and reinforcing our behavior. We think that our motivations are pure. We are acting in a righteous way.  For others.  Not ourselves.  We are selfless.  But is this really true?

We also have a way of running an interior narrative that reinforces this reality.  We can truly convince ourselves that we value something when the facts actually completely contradict this belief.  The complete opposite of what we think.

The difference is reality and reality is found in action. We will DO what is important to us.  You can’t fool action.  You can tell people that you value or care about something, but what are you doing about it?  If you are not acting it’s just talk.

Folks run their mouths about helping the poor and donate absolutely nothing. The environmentalist drives a Suburban. The wife says she loves her husband but spends more time talking to her girlfriends and keeping up her super mom image. The husband who says he is a devoted dad but spends his weekends playing golf.

Examine your action VERY carefully.  What do you do?  What are your actions?  Day in day out, what is your true motivation?  You may disguise it as altruist, charitable, for others- but is it really?  Often, its really all about you and what you truly care about.

The way that you look to others.
Your image.
Your reputation with others.

There is a passage in the Bible that talks about praying loudly on the corner and praying silently in a private place.  The public display is all about you.  You have received your reward.  The private display is the only pure motivation.

Is your action about the return?  Even what looks charitable or caring?  What I GET for my GIVE.  Will I get something in return for my actions?  Will people think i’m just so amazing for what I did?

You can fool yourself into thinking all of your actions are for others.  Pump yourself up. But you are lying to yourself.  Examine yourself closely.  Are you doing it for your image? Or for your pride!

Do it in private.  Do it for someone who doesn’t think you are amazing.  Do it for someone who doesn’t even show ANY appreciation for it.

If not- you might be simply fooling yourself!

So what do you think?  Do we tell ourselves a story that may be completely false?  Can we truly fool ourself?  Click on “Leave a Comment and tell me what you think!

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Cleaning the Toilets

There are always the unpleasant jobs. The jobs that don’t bring you any accolades. The ones that are not seen. The unpleasant jobs that have no reward. Who does those jobs?

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Few will do those jobs. I have been doing the tough jobs since my father taught me what work is really all about. The hard and hot and nasty jobs. I learned that hard work will not kill you. I often do the jobs that nobody even notices. Why do I do it?

Because it needs to be done. Because nobody else will. And if I don’t do them, then it will only get worse. The dirt, repair, stain, pile, problem…will only get bigger. And when I finish- nobody will notice much. They won’t know how hard you worked to get it done. They won’t know what it took to complete the task. But I will notice. And I know that I have headed off a major project by noticing the need and taking care of it. Yet…

I will not get any response.

No atta boys.

I will not get an ego boost from others.

Nobody will tell me that I am sweet, caring, or thoughtful.

Nobody will even notice that the work has been done- except me.

We just don’t have many folks that will clean the toilets anymore. Everything has to have a reward. Everything has to result in the your world telling you that you are amazing. A hero. That your incredible. That you have a big heart. That your just so special.

What will we do when the toilet cleaners are gone? I can tell you. Things will get dirty. And things will not get done. And the others will wonder what happened. They will talk about the problem. They will complain about the situation. They will tell their friends. They will try to talk it to death.

But it won’t get done without a toilet cleaner. I hope that there will be some around. The folks that “do” instead of “talk”. The folks that aren’t afraid to do a task without an ego lifting pat on the back. The unnoticed. The toilet cleaners.

Have you really examined your motivations? Are you really only feeding your ego in your work, service and actions? Do you complete work simply because it needs to be done? Or is everything motivated by getting something back? Let me know if you “get this” by clicking on “Like”.  Or click “Leave a Comment”and tell me what you think!