Do we deceive ourselves into thinking that we ARE what we are NOT?
The mind has a way of legitimizing and reinforcing our behavior. We think that our motivations are pure. We are acting in a righteous way. For others. Not ourselves. We are selfless. But is this really true?
We also have a way of running an interior narrative that reinforces this reality. We can truly convince ourselves that we value something when the facts actually completely contradict this belief. The complete opposite of what we think.
The difference is reality and reality is found in action. We will DO what is important to us. You can’t fool action. You can tell people that you value or care about something, but what are you doing about it? If you are not acting it’s just talk.
Folks run their mouths about helping the poor and donate absolutely nothing. The environmentalist drives a Suburban. The wife says she loves her husband but spends more time talking to her girlfriends and keeping up her super mom image. The husband who says he is a devoted dad but spends his weekends playing golf.
Examine your action VERY carefully. What do you do? What are your actions? Day in day out, what is your true motivation? You may disguise it as altruist, charitable, for others- but is it really? Often, its really all about you and what you truly care about.
The way that you look to others.
Your reputation with others.
There is a passage in the Bible that talks about praying loudly on the corner and praying silently in a private place. The public display is all about you. You have received your reward. The private display is the only pure motivation.
Is your action about the return? Even what looks charitable or caring? What I GET for my GIVE. Will I get something in return for my actions? Will people think i’m just so amazing for what I did?
You can fool yourself into thinking all of your actions are for others. Pump yourself up. But you are lying to yourself. Examine yourself closely. Are you doing it for your image? Or for your pride!
Do it in private. Do it for someone who doesn’t think you are amazing. Do it for someone who doesn’t even show ANY appreciation for it.
If not- you might be simply fooling yourself!